WANT,NEED AND LOVE

Mister and Misses WANT are driven and kind of cold. They are led by deep burning wounds and/or motivations. They are simple but enduring engines. There are no gray zones for them. They love or they don't. They go according to their impulses, their desires of the moment. They have little insights, they are certainly not into deep thoughts or sentimentality. They are easy to know from A to Z. They are desirable, they strive to have "meat market" value. They do not take into consideration anyone who is not inside a certain "circle" they have created . They can turn on you in a heart beat. They do not have much empathy, their emotional world is too primitive for that. They will adapt to get to their goals. Things are important for them not people. They treat people like objects. They do not forgive unless they have a motivation too. They are mostly promiscuous, they like to conquer , not love.

Mister and Misses NEED are emotional people. They need security, nurturing, an intimate setting, a refuge. They are able of some insights. They are the needy ones. Always looking for approbation. They live in the past and have a hard time focusing on the present. They are the one who miss you after a day without you. They are the one who will wait for you. They are dreamers. You are more important, for them, then any project. They take a lot out of you. They will invest a lot in their children. They are good listeners but need to be listened too, constantly. They are not doers. They don't need things as much as they need people. Their self esteem is in direct relation with people's attention and appreciation. They will forgive to not be alone. They need to be seduced and pampered.

Mister and Misses LOVE have come to a balance. They have learned how to manage all things with maturity and detachment. They live in simplicity.They are able to have good insights. They can give with no strings attached or ulterior motives. They lean toward a real spirituality. They abandon an unhealthy need for things or people to open their heart to Christ. They understand and accept their limits and those of others. They praise God for what He brings to them everyday. They know that an ego is always thirsty and that an heart can be content.

How to not be a victim

1. Do not act like a victim. No matter what your circumstances are in life God loves you. Even if you do not know him or think he does not exist, He loves you. Do not be afraid, do not be impulsive, do not get into addictions that will get you in trouble. Addictions are just chains, God breaks chains.

2. Follow God and not any charismatic, sparkle off the tooth, snake oil salesman, dishonest, not well intended stranger. Let God lead you and guide you. Let the Holy Spirit show you the way. Feel the love and forgiveness that Jesus has for you and let it live in your heart. Read and memorize the Word of God. God forgive if you ask him to. You do not carry the burden of sins from your past but the love in your heart of the present.

3. Go where you need to be not where you desire to be. We put ourselves in danger by going to places we never should have been to. Go where you should be going and God will provide. Be courageous and do not disperse your energy. Be wise.

4. Live with armor of God on you at all time. Read Ephesians 6:10-18

Ego vs Heart

An Ego is a good thing to waste. Some would say it divides us, it blinds us, it desires; its thirst is never quenched. It is all very true. The reason is that most people's ego is immature, it leads us into addictions and into unwise routes. It is mostly filled with pseudo love, frustrations, wounds and more than anything else in our society : narcissism.

Everybody heard about narcissism. It is the root of all psychological illnesses. The simplest image of what narcissism is would be to say it is a colorful thin layer , with mirror like quality, that covers the crust of our personality which is our Ego. It gives us the illusion of self importance and power. It is a dangerous psychological sickness. Everybody knows sociopathic and psychopathic personalities narcissistic tendencies; this ability they have to see someone has a "tool to an end" and nothing more. It is the sterilization of love.

It seems that the Ego makes us prisoners of desires, wounds and narcissism. Some people strive their whole life trying to solve the issues created by their own Ego; or better they lay down in the mud of their own narcissism and perceive it as gold. Let's not lose our sanity and freedom over that little crust that covers the core of our personality.

Let's put aside the ego for a moment. What is our heart made of? Why talk of the heart, while Psychologists talk in length about our poor suffering ego?

The heart enables us to be in contact with the world and be of service to the world with our own God given talents. It is the drive that helps build and create a real peace and does not lead into destructive or enslaving behaviors. Our heart is the root of freedom and of the absence of discrimination. It makes us understand we are not complete, that we are sinners and leads us in the arms of Jesus Christ, our savior.It creates a need of unity as well as a need for individual growth that goes beyond boundaries of an empty and sin glorifying liberal society . It enables us to develop at our full potential and be gold mines for the world and more importantly for God.

God has created us to be free and love each other and our heart was the gift from God to achieve this. Our heart is the link to Christ and to God who will protect us against our persecutors.

"The heart of a fool is in his mouth, but the mouth of the wise man is in his heart." A Quote by one of the founding fathers of the nation Benjamin Franklin

Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Proverbs 3 5-6

A sound heart is life to the body, But envy is rottenness to the bones. Proverbs 14:30

We all have been hurt and it is our heart that has been hurt at all time. Our feelings of abandonnment and betrayal, or disrespect and the opression and agression done toward us is incalculable.

The only way to free ourselves from these injustices is forgiveness. It is the only tool and the most powerful one you could ever find. Once you accomplish this task you will feel real power, great lucidity and a deep inner sense of liberty and a feeling of lightness. Never forgiving is accepting to be chained to the events and/or people that gave you pain.

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. Mahatma Gandhi quote.

And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins. Mark 11:25


Our Heart is our fortress, created by God. Forgive, love and share, and you will live into a light that will never fade.

May God bless you and your family